You can see Part 1 of this lesson HERE.
5. Look at how much you’ve grown and accomplished this year. I know it’s hard to believe at times because we engage in this insanely soul-crushing illusion of compare-and- despair-ism that renders us always ineffectual and less than. It might be one of the most damning things we do to ourselves. So stop doing it. You’ve done a lot. Even if comparing yourself to some stranger’s glamorous Instagram posts makes you feel like you haven’t.
4. Don’t let “The Business”, other people, a relationship, current circumstances, your past or conditioned beliefs define you. We often don’t see ourselves accurately, or we don’t see ourselves beyond the thing we do (or don’t do) or the amount of success we have (or are still striving for). Cellist Yo-Yo Ma says, “People are always trying to prove something through the job they have or the college that they get into. But you’re more than a score that you get on your SATs. Someone might say, ”˜Oh I got a perfect score on my SATs.’ So therefore you’re better than someone who gets 10 points lower? No ”“ that says nothing about whether you’re better at it. You just took the test and that day you got a perfect score. Terrific. That’s not all of you. We kind of lose track of all of what one person is, which is obviously unique, and instead we compare one little sliver of someone to one little sliver of someone else. We say, ”˜I was top dog in this competition or that tennis match or in this job hunt.’ That’s not the human being. That’s just one measurement.”
3. The one thing you’re scared of doing ”“ do it. Attempt it. Try. Fail. Succeed. It really doesn’t matter. You’ll be happier because you’re simply out of your head and doing the things that make you feel purposeful and give you joy. Don’t get caught in the end results or the “how’s” ”“ just participate more fully in your own life.
2. Try ”“ at least for an hour a day ”“ to not judge, shame, criticize or be nasty to yourself. Our most perfectly honed skills in life seem to be in this area alone. Let’s transmute that energy to something more beneficial (and true). No. Shame. Day.
1. Don’t underestimate the power of you. That’s it. Nothing more to say. You ”“ just as you are right now ”“ are enough. For everything or anyone or any situation. And you’re the only you you’ll ever have so it’s time to celebrate this. Not when you’re more attractive or have tighter abs. Not when you have more acting credits or more money. Just you now.